It is fair to say most people struggle with self-love, but why? God gave us one body… ONE. So why don’t we love it since it is the only one we got? I am right there with you, I have struggled myself for a long time on loving who I am, physically and mentally. Slowly I have learned to accept who I am and love who I am. I cannot change me, and I would not want to.
My body has changed since I graduated high school. I am not the same person I was in high school, and maybe my stomach got a little bigger too. Graduating high school I could fit into extra small-medium, today I am a medium-large and I am okay with that. It does not make me who I am as a person.
“You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you” (Song of Solomon, 4:7)
Size should not define you. Whatever size you are, you truly are beautiful. I am still not a hundred percent confident in my skin, and I do not think anyone is. I’ve been an athlete all my life, and I have thick thighs and thick arms because of it and it has always made me insecure, but I’ve learned to realize that is me. I do not have a flat stomach, and honestly I probably never will and I am okay with that. Yes, I love to eat and I do it all the time. I wish I could live a healthier lifestyle and eat healthy, but I always fail at diets, but I don’t care. I am not a failure, and no matter how I look or what I weigh I am okay with who I am.
I’ve learned in the past if I am not okay with who I am, I am going to have a hard time loving someone else if I cannot even love me. But guess what? I do love someone, and he loves me. He does not love me for my size or how I look. He loves me for ME. So stop looking in the mirror and wishing you were skinnier or wishing you were bigger or wishing you were prettier because you are beautiful. The right person is going to love you for your soul, not your outlook appearance. We were not made to all look the same, and I do not want to look like everyone else. Why would we want that?
God made me and he made you, and he made us this way for a reason. Do not change it, embrace it! “For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church” (Ephesians 5:29)
So accept who are — and that does not mean you have to stop improving who you are, but just accept who you have already become. When you come to accept who you are, you stress less on what people think of you, because in the end who cares what they think. When you love you, you almost see the world differently. It allows you to look at things in a different perspective, and love things more like the way you love yourself. So do yourself a favor, and love yourself because it is so important.